Many people come up to me and ask me how I’m happy and positive ALL the time. My answer is, “I’m not.”
Even though I am a sparkly unicorn, I’m also a human being. As a human being it’s impossible to be happy and positive ALL the time. Being happy all the time is like music without the rest symbol. It wouldn’t exist. The rest is just as important to the music as the notes.
Sadness is just as important to life as the happiness.
Festivals have their ups and downs too. At Grand Point North this year I witnessed Marco Benevento choosing to literally dance in the rain. As Marco’s set was approaching the sky got darker and darker. As he took the stage it started to rain. The rain got wild and was coming in sideways soaking Marco and threatening his electronic equipment. Instead of freaking out and canceling his set, he embraced it. The harder the rain came down the higher his energy rose. It was contagious and even though we were soaked to the bone we all cheered louder and danced harder. It felt like Marco and Mother Nature were one in that moment and the rain didn’t hinder his set. It actually made it better and one of the most memorable and joyous festival moments I’ve had to this date. He didn’t wait for the storm to pass. He danced in the rain and inspired us to do the same. Pretty much the second he played his last note the rain stopped, the sun came out and Greensky Bluegrass took the stage. It was a moment of pure magic.
This past year has been an interesting one for me. I’ve delt with a lot of challenges. I’ve had two miscarriages, my soul sister’s baby was in the NICU for his first weeks of life, I had a retreat where not one person signed up for it and I had to cancel it, a good friend was suicidal and I witnessed an important and loved family member struggle with his health and he just passed on this week. I allowed myself to really feel into the sadness because all of those things are really sad.
Feelings can’t be labeled as good or bad. They just are. This includes anger, sadness, happiness, joy and bliss. My friend Cora says, “You can’t put glitter on poop and pretend it’s not poop.” If you feel sad, you don’t have to put a smile on your face and pretend that everything’s fine when it’s obviously not. When someone asks you how you are you don’t have to lie and say good.
So much beauty hides in the darkness. If you pretend the dark isn’t there you might miss the magic that lies within it.
When I was in the midst of all of the situations I talked about above I asked myself a question that my friend Morella shared with me. “What if this is the best thing happening FOR me right now? What would that mean.”
When I shifted my perspective and found a way to answer that question honestly or be open to the answer if it didn’t come to me right away, I took the power away from the situations to make me suffer. I was no longer a victim in the whirlwind of life with all these crazy things happening around me. I had the choice to choose how to react to everything and if it’s all the best thing that could be happening for me right now, whatever it is doesn’t have the power to make me suffer.
The more you practice this shift in perception, the more life will feel like a magical festival even during the dark times.
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