For years my life was a struggle. I was a struggling high school student. I moved on to become a struggling college student. Next I transitioned into a struggling dancer. My next move was to become a struggling “I’m not really sure who I am or what I’m supposed to be doing” person. After that I chose to become a struggling holistic entrepreneur. Finally I decided to thrive.
Why did I choose to struggle for so long? For one, I felt kind of like a badass. “Check me out. My life is so hard, but I’m so strong and I can handle whatever life throws at me so bring it on”.” And oh did life bring it on. Life brought it in the forms of unexpected major and minor financial expenses, injuries, constant and strange sicknesses, complicated relationships, difficult job situations, piling up credit card debt, dental issues and I could go on and on and on and on. Even with all that adversity I pulled through. Life was supposed to be hard right?
Another reason I chose to struggle was that I got to play the victim. I played that part really well. Life was happening to me and there was nothing I could do about it. I had no choice. Nothing was my fault. It was everyone else’s fault I was struggling so I didn’t take responsibility for anything that was going on in my life.
Lastly I was avoiding going deep with myself by instead choosing to focus on the struggle and all the dramas that go along with that struggle. And oh the dramas did I create! It was much easier (although that couldn’t be further from the truth) to continue to avoid really seeing myself than it was to take a good hard look in the mirror.
One day I decided I had enough. I didn’t want to struggle anymore. I wanted to thrive.
I left my relationship, said good bye to many of my friends, packed up all my stuff and followed my heart to Vermont. When I arrived there I consciously decided I would always and forever listen to my heart because even though sometimes it got me hurt, that hurt was always worth it and always taught me priceless lessons. I had no idea if moving to Vermont was going to work out, but it didn’t matter to me. I had to take the chance. The worst case scenario was worth the risk of the best one coming to fruition.
I made another choice. When it came to creating abundance I was going to do it by only choosing things that used all of my natural born and learned gifts along with a drive and passion to do it. It was really scary and extremely uncomfortable and at the same time the best decision I ever made. I went from trying to go upstream with a crappy paddle to becoming the flow.
But I couldn’t have done it alone. We are often told that the world we live in is a dog eat dog world where it’s every man for himself. When my world was like that I felt isolated, alone, depressed and anxious. When I shifted to a place a realization that we are all one and we’re all in this together, I started to thrive. Instead of competition, I created community where I was able to give support and get supported. Where I had a safe space to show up whether I was feeling light or dark. I had a place to share my wins. It was pure magic.
Instead of being around and focusing on the haters who are gonna hate and the strugglers who are gonna struggle, I chose to surround myself and focus on the lovers who are gonna love and the thrivers who are going to thrive.
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