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Nobody Wants Crabs

Posted on August 30, 2013 by taraleigh

 I don’t want crabs and I’m thinking most people don’t want them either. I’m not talking about that STD that makes you itchy down south (although I don’t want those kinds of crabs either), but I’m talking about people who act like crabs.

Check out what I found on wikipedia about crab mentality.

Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket, is a phrase popular among Filipinos, and was first coined by filipino feminist Ninotchka Rosca, in reference to the phrase crabs in a bucket.[1] It describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase

“if I can’t have it, neither can you.” 

The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs. Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless “king of the hill” competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise.[2][3] The analogy in human behavior is that members of a group will attempt to “pull down” (negate or diminish the importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy,[4] conspiracy or competitive feelings.

The concept figures prominently in Terry Pratchett‘s novel Unseen Academicals. A fishmonger does not bother to keep a lid on the crab bucket because “any that tries to get out gets pulled back”. The protagonist comes to realize that her social status results not from external repression, but from her own low expectations of herself:

“The worst of it is, the crab that mostly keeps you down is you”.

This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-constructive thinking rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality. It is also often used colloquially in reference to individuals or communities attempting to improve their socioeconomic situations, but kept from doing so by others attempting to ride upon their coat-tails or those who simply resent their success.[5]

The popularity of the phrase has made accusing opponents of crab mentality a common form of defense against criticism, whether the criticism is valid or not.[6] In logic, this tactic is considered a common logical fallacy known as argumentum ad invidiam, or appeal to envy.[7]

After reading what crab mentality is, you can see why nobody wants crabs.
Nobody wants crabs in their lives and no one wants to be a crab.

Frogs are where it’s at!!!
Watch this video and find out the difference between frogs and crabs.

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Are you the biggest crab in your life?

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