An energy vampire is a person in your life that sucks the positive energy out of you leaving you completely drained and unable to carry out the goals you’ve set for yourself. They also go by emotional vampires. These people constantly blame other people for their circumstances, complain about life, are self-centered and when you are done dealing with them, you are left physically and mentally exhausted. Does any of this sound familiar? I thought so. Don’t let an energy vampire bite you in the neck and drink all of your positive life blood. Don’t do it. Take your power back.
Being a happy nice person sometimes makes you an easy target for an energy vampire. They want your happy blood. They have been known to manipulate their way into your life and suck the energy out of you until there is no more to take before moving on. When you feel an energy vampire is in your life sucking your energy, grab your stake and stab them in the heart with you sparkling stake of light and send them on their way. They are using you. They will leave you feeling weak.
How do you slay an energy vampire?
1. End conversations that suck your energy.
2. Do not join the pity party.
3. Do not gossip.
4. Do not condone and energy vampire’s behavior.
5. Never take anything they say personally no matter how personal it feels.
6. Stick to the loving boundaries you have set for yourself.
7. Confront them if necessary in a loving way and release them from your life if possible.
8. If they are related to you, put on your Imaginary Glittery Protective Armor
9. Buy a ticket on the “No Can Do Train” (Keep reading to find out the train schedule).
10. If All else fails, ignore them completely.
Repeat this three times and say it loud and proud.
If you’ve tried ignoring energy vampires and they just won’t go away, you need to communicate with them effectively. Here are a couple sample scripts you can use.
Dear So and So (Aka Energy Vampire) ( Don’t write that. They don’t like to be called that),
I am focusing my time and energy on positivity. I don’t have time for anything other than joy and love. If joy and love become a priority for you once you’ve given up the drama, I’ll be here for you with open arms.
Sending you love and light,
Dear So and So,
I’m in control of my life and this is how I feel. I can feel you trying to suck my positive energy from me, but I will not let that happen. I have set loving boundaries for myself and I’m not going to let anyone or anything deter me from maintaining my focus and goals. When you can be there for me with an open heart the way I have been for you, I would be open to talk to you again. Until then…
Sending you love and light,
Do you have energy vampires in your life? Stab them in the heart with a sparkling stake of light!! Join the conversation and declare that you are an energy vampire slayer.